Internet dating?

Category: Singles Spit Swap

Post 1 by Jess227 on Sunday, 03-Jul-2005 23:27:02

I know people have done it. But thats only because they either don't have time to go to bars or parties or they simply can't find anyone. How did you find your online love and how did you go about it? What are the best places other then chat rooms to look for net dating? Do places like E Harmonies, Match.com, and other match making sites worth it and legit? I'm curious as I might be going this route as I have failed in relationships by meeting the person first.

Post 2 by Myr (Generic Zoner) on Monday, 04-Jul-2005 13:32:13

I met my boyfriend on the internet by accident. I stumbled across his website, I liked it and signed his guestbook. After that we started emailing and chatting, and a couple of months later we met.

I wouldn't try real dating sites, there are too many people who are looking there. it's very prone to disappointments. I recommend chatrooms or communities that are not dating related.

Post 3 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Monday, 04-Jul-2005 13:45:44

a friend of mine is a member of an internet dating sight and has met several guys from it, none of whom are have turned out to be the right one. I think with an actual dating site there is too much expectation for things to work when in all probability they may not.

Post 4 by Jess227 on Monday, 04-Jul-2005 15:40:04

I never believed in the E Haromony or Match.com websites. I just think those types of things are just "fake" I mean seriously who's going to answer their profile questions honestly? Not many.

Post 5 by Godzilla-On-Toast (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Monday, 04-Jul-2005 17:59:45

I met my girlfriend on an e-mail list. I guess she liked waht I had to say on various things and how I said it, and a friendship started, which grew into a love relationship, and now I live with her and her son and I couldn't be happier!

Post 6 by Chris N (I just keep on posting!) on Monday, 04-Jul-2005 19:02:56

If you assume that the people who lie in their profiles do so to make themselves look perfect, and you conshously look for the profiles who are... hmmm.. a little more realistic, you might weed out that set. It all depends on who you're looking for though. I find bars to be annoying and pretty superficial. Parties are better, but I've lost touch with that after college and moving. Perhaps the best thing is to find a community of people that you have things in common with and go from there. Or just ignore my babbling and do your own thing. ;)

Post 7 by Jess227 on Monday, 04-Jul-2005 20:48:28

ah, bars are too noisey, dirty and dangerious. Parties I go to well, the friends I go with go with a crowd that are their age, not close to mine. Those are few and far between and the ones I go to with family stay within the family, in otherwords guests are members of the family.

Post 8 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Monday, 04-Jul-2005 23:26:42

i met clara on the zone believe it or not. the best thing about it is, i wasnt even looking!

Post 9 by gummybear16 (Account disabled) on Saturday, 09-Jul-2005 6:20:11

Well... Internet dating. I'm with it, but I dunnow. I mean I don't really go out in town, and If I could just find the right one, or let the right guy find me.
I strongly disaggree with those damn dating sites. They can lead you on. Plus I have my standards and any of my internet boyfriends I'd rather date a blind guy than a sighted one. If he's visually impaired it's cool, but... well... I'll shut up now,
Peace,
Karrie

Post 10 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Friday, 12-Aug-2005 16:17:30

Internet dating. I don’t aree with it, i dont like dating people online. If I’m going to meet someone either at school, in a friends party, or in a mall. Its better to see that person than just chat and chat all day. I like physical contact better than chat expressions(smileys) hah no way. I would rather be with that person like next to that person not using web cams and mic. Oh but if your in a relationship with someone, the internet is a best way for communications. Skype is just over there. Hehe lol but seriously, its nice to hang out with someone like every Friday night and watch a movie and just spend time together right. Hey I don’t have anything against internet dating its just sort of inconvenient and kind of fake to me and this is just my opinion I respect all of your opinions as well. What do you think?

Post 11 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Saturday, 13-Aug-2005 2:16:48

I personally don't go out to find "love". just go about my daily thing and if I meet someone, it's meant to be, whether it be online or locally. I think, when you're constantly looking you secretly have expectations so you may never find anyone. Myself and my new boyfriend had been talking for a while, and we both grew very close but didn't commit til we met last month. I wasn't looking. in fact I didn't think anything til he start to make his feelings more clear and I found the same with myself after a while. I was beginning to think "maybe I need to consciously look, but then I spose .. the most unsuspecting people get you! :)
I've heard of livejournal being a kind of match site Lol! I just think, as with locally, it will happen when/where ever it's meant too. though in saying that, a friend here did have some luck with a dating site. so nothing is impossible. it's certainly something I wouldn't use though. phone lines (such as introline, lava life, etc.) could be good as well. got a few friends who have had luck with them. :) .. just suggesting! :) Lol

Post 12 by Pink Flamingo (Generic Zoner) on Saturday, 20-Aug-2005 18:06:21

Normally I find internet datingsites sketchy. We had a message board site for my university. One day I got a private message from a guy asking if I wanted to go get a cup of coffee sometime? We were meeting on campus and he had no info on me so I felt it was safe. Well almost a year later we are still together.

Post 13 by Inesle1987 (Account disabled) on Saturday, 20-Aug-2005 22:08:00

I did it once but I learned certain things from it. This dude totally fooled me and when I said I coudl take it anymore he said he is going to kill himself. I doubt he did, I doubt he ever loved me and I even doubt his name is Tony as he told me. I would never do it again I was totally naive at that time.

Post 14 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Saturday, 20-Aug-2005 23:52:27

you live and learn though! .. BG that is so awesome! congrats! :):)

Post 15 by Flidais (WISEST IS SHE WHO KNOWS THAT SHE DOES NOT KNOW) on Sunday, 21-Aug-2005 5:42:12

All I will say on this is "proceed with extreme caution"

Post 16 by Inesle1987 (Account disabled) on Sunday, 21-Aug-2005 9:07:03

I don't mind having a relationship which is usually based on the web but at least I have to know my partner personally.

Post 17 by Ezria (Veteran Zoner) on Sunday, 21-Aug-2005 13:09:08

I'd rather go to a bar or get my friends to hook me up with someone. I think a lot of people who date online don't have the self-confidence to approach someone in person, but they will online. Internet romances are jusn an illusion, in my opinion. They're definitely not a substitute for the real thing.

Post 18 by Witchcraft (Account disabled) on Sunday, 21-Aug-2005 14:09:26

Over eight years ago my husband and I met online. I certainly wasn't looking, LOL, and I don't think he was either, but our friends were involved, and we were worried about each of them, so, we started talking. They are no longer together, but we are and very, very, happy. So, to say the least, I don't think Internet love is an illusion or anything like that, it's very real...but there does need to be caution, however, I think that is so no matter how your meeting someone.

Post 19 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Sunday, 21-Aug-2005 20:20:20

*agrees with WC* and congrats! :) .. one never knows what can happen in reality!

Post 20 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Monday, 22-Aug-2005 1:28:03

Well I think we need to make a distinction here. I think the internet can be a great medium to meet people, I think you can even become attracted to someone on the net, but I don’t think that you can call it a relationship until you have actually met. You have to be realistic, someone can be anything they like online, and you could potentially never find out. And I know of people who have trusted someone absolutely implicitly that they’ve met on the net, and found out some time later that they’re not anything they’ve made out to be.

Post 21 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Monday, 22-Aug-2005 4:16:02

I do agree with you SB 100% .. that's why I guess we waited til we met til we made any further decisions on our relationship. :)

Post 22 by Puggle (I love my life!) on Monday, 22-Aug-2005 8:48:11

be realistic, don't get caught up in little dreams and fantacies. after all. we still live in reality.